Your Problem is That You Think You Have a Problem

There’s nothing wrong with you, you just have an idea of yourself that’s in the way.

When life doesn’t go according to our projections,

we begin to seek for a problem.

What’s wrong with me?

Where did I fck up?

How could it have been different?

The very seeking is what creates the problem.

 This is the elephant in the room.

The overarching ‘issue’ is how you are relating to yourself through circumstance.

The reason why that new strategy isn’t working for you…

why relationships just never seem to meet your needs…

why you always feel confused, yet have so much information available to you…

is not because of something or someone out there, rather it has everything to do with the someone in here, the person you think you are.

Let’s get one thing extremely straight at this moment.

Circumstance does not make you feel.

You feel because you give circumstance power over you as your reaction to it. 

Your inner state can either be independent of or yield to external circumstance.

There’s no fundamental law to life that states that your external situation must dictate your inner state of being.

This by no means belittles nor pedestalizes anyone’s situation in life.

Now of course, when you are young this translates much murkier, but let’s draw the analogy into the life of someone who is reading this that is conscious and aware of their capacity to create their reality.

When you feel incapable of creating the reality that you want, the logical pathway to inquire upon is to find what is wrong with you.

This is the seed of the biggest limitation you will ever face.

Let’s say hypothetically that you do find specific wrongness within you, how then does that empower you?

One step deeper, it is now fairly common practice due to overwhelming supporting evidence in the psychology and therapy industry to not categorize or diagnose what patients are symptomatically experiencing.

It is has been found to have inverse correlation to healing and transformation.

Like all things, there are plenty of loopholes, exceptions, pros and cons, etc...

But nonetheless, this is the pearl hidden in plain sight.

There is nothing wrong with you, you’ve just experienced life in ways that led you to adapt the way you filter and perceive reality and therefore behave as a manifestation of who you think you are.

The manifestations of your behavior and thoughts can have very real effects, and not to your betterment, but the substructure that supports your behaviors and thought process is the way you are currently relating to yourself.

The way you are currently relating to yourself is outdated.

Most people live their conscious adult lives through a fundamental story of self that is rooted in their childhood perception of the world.

This then impacts the way your nervous system responds and reacts to life.

Tigers don’t need to be involved for you to be constantly under the influence of cortisol, the fight or flight drug.

Trust me, that is one hell of a drug that we have all been addicted to at some point even if we hated it.

Your nervous system is the both the lock and key to self-actualization.

Learning to update the way your nervous system responds to life is how you upgrade your entire reality.

Imagine an everyday experience where you don’t need to default to stress…

Here’s the analogy. 

Your human operating system is still running on Macintosh 01 when you have available to you the latest and greatest version.

Inevitably, that is going to cause a whole lot of unnecessary stress, complication, and suffering.

So, the pathway to updating the way your nervous system responds to life is through updating your relationship to self. 

You are relating to yourself subconsciously through your deepest wounds.

To re-iterate, just because there are wounds does not mean there is anything wrong with you. 

To move forward, you have to step backwards and move through those deep wounds consciously.

The self-concept of inadequacy, insecurity, and scarcity that was created and perpetuated through language has to be unraveled through acceptance.

Feel the inadequacy.

Feel the insecurity.

Feel the scarcity.

The way out is through and when you allow yourself to consciously feel your deepest subconscious fears, what else is there left to do?

The hardest part is allowing yourself to feel what you resist.

Humans don’t have a fear of a circumstance, we have fear of FEELING what that circumstance brings up inside of us.

The fear is already there  inside of you, and resisting feeling it is the surefire way to remain limited by it.

Let’s bring the cows home on this one.

There is nothing wrong with you, just the way you are currently relating to yourself is outdated.

Circumstance only has power over you if you choose to give your power to it.

Your nervous system is the lock and key to creating safety in your most current idea of yourself, no tigers necessary.

Embrace your deepest fears attached to your current identity.

Then, the power you’ve given those fears dissolves.

What remains is freedom, now write a new a story of you.