Getting Out of Your Own Way to Re-discover Authenticity

There is nothing that you’ve been through that you haven’t gotten through.

‘well fck it doesn’t make what I’m going through any easier.’

Its not supposed to.

Life isn’t designed that way.

Easy doesn’t lead to expansion.

But just because life isn’t easy, does not mean that it cannot be natural and fluid.

Let’s dive into getting out of your own way.

Life is going to life you, please count on that.

Hardship, pain, emotional turbulence, the whole kit and caboodle; its coming for you.

Luckily there is literally nothing you can do to prepare for this.

Rather, its all a matter of be-ing. What life asks of you is to re-align your way of being which starts with your fundamental story of self.

99% of unnecessary suffering comes from the root cause of inauthenticity.

BIG ONE.

When you act out of alignment to what deeply feels right for you, you are setting yourself up for tension and resistance in life.

You make a decision that requires you to abandon a part of yourself.

You take a job because it was somebody else’s view of what you should be doing.

You genuinely feel anger but don’t express because you don’t know how.

Inauthenticity and it’s many manifestations wreak havoc on our inner landscapes as well as the consequences they have in the physical reality we experience.

We naturalize to acting from this place and create a fundamental story of self that is distorted, too heavily influenced by society, or even just downright confused.

Its okay.

Be graceful with yourself.

You are doing the best you can with what you know.

Now, its time to refine and update your story.

Most of the tensions and resistance we experience in life comes from us defending an identity, who we think we are, because of our perceived sense of safety within that identity.

Who you think you are is often an outdated version of who you really are.

But because it is familiar, we tend to also believe it is safe and healthy.

Let’s break that down real quick.

You’ve established a way of life derived from an idea of who you want to be fit with your default responses, reactions, aspirations, and attachments. That’s what humans do.

Now take a step back. Who created that idea, or rather story, of self.

Your teenage self?

Your parents?

Your peers around you?

There is no wrong answer, so just be honest with yourself.

How much of who I am today belongs to my authentic me, and how much of who I am today belongs to on older version of me or others?

When you can start to objectively the ratio between what is genuinely yours and what is not, so much space is created for you to re-align with your now current ideals.

What worked for you in the past may not be the best way forward now.

But it is natural and default to just play out the pattern that’s already been playing out. Familiar is the default response, but it not always healthy.

If it is now familiar for you to live your life according to how other people want you to life it, how much disharmony does that create?

How much emotional turbulence?

How much confusion, resentment, resistance?

Internalizing all of those things is certainly not for your highest good and it is not helping you live the life that you want to be living.

Guess how we start to change this?

Well it’s the hard route.

The only time you can really ever start to change your story of self is through those tough moments of being triggered, feeling fear, and feeling lost.

When your default reaction to life inevitably comes out, defending and reinforcing the idea of you that you no longer want to be, you have a little window to look inside yourself and to follow that little trail of a subconscious behavioral response back to its origin.

Only you can know where that goes and only you can do the hard work of getting back to your core wounds.

Applying love and grace to those core wounds is what creates the sense of connection to your authentic self that will help you re-wire your fundamental story and start living your best life now.